“I want to think again of dangerous and noble things.
I want to be light and frolicsome.
I want to be improbable beautiful and afraid of nothing,
as though I had wings.”
― Mary Oliver
“Defending My Joy” is a term I have been using for the last few years whenever I have to take action to keep things positive. Not to be confused with “Sparking Joy”, which is totally cool too, but this is different. I’m taking about protecting and defending your joy—an intentional strike against anything that would try to take it from you. I tried to write a little bit about it last year, but its something I’m still unpacking. But the latter half of this post with give you some silly and fun examples of ways I’ve found joy during one of the coldest and snowiest Winters in Minnesota, and I hope it will bring you a giggle as well.
I don’t know if we made it up this term “defend your joy”, but I recall a conversation with my best friend on a hike at Fort Snelling when I was going through some tough life stuff 3 or 4 years ago. I was worried that I was burning the candle at both ends and that the strategy of playing and loving proportionally harder when life’s challenges came my way was just going to blow up in my face one day. We decided that it was my best defense, my superpower…a boundary that was worth defending…and that the action of pushing harder into joy when life gives you a handful of poop, is more than just ‘thinking positively’, it is a purposeful, disciplined strike.
Disclaimer: I am not a psychologist, life coach, your mother or really have any business giving you life advice and I certainly don’t have it figured out. But here’s what working for me, maybe you already do this too? Life can be hard and overwhelming sometimes, don’t be afraid to do what you need to do to take care of yourself (remember my helmet?). Get help, go outside, find that little thing that brings you joy, hold onto it….and defend it with all you’ve got!
So, with defending joy in mind, here are a few videos of some playful activities besides hiking , camping and snowshoeing that I have done this winter that still fill my heart every time I look back on them. Enjoy!
Make a Cloud!
-40 degrees with the Windchill this day. Boil a small pot of water and throw it out your backdoor to see what happens! My friends in India thought this was the most mind-boggling thing and want to try it when they visit!
Frozen Long Johns!
Same subzero day. Soak your clothing in water and watch it freeze standing up in 3 minutes! I laughed at this one for a long time. The dog wouldn’t stop barking at “the intruder in our yard”, so I had to go back out and move “it” out of her sight.
My neighbors got a good chuckle out of it and the Boy Scouts of America marketing guy who visited last Fall wrote to make sure I wasn’t frozen solid and featured it on the BSA instagram page!
Play on the Trail!
We need more dancing..all year round! Plus, It’ll keep you warm and embarrass your children! I also think we need more stopping to goof around, more time to be light and frolicsome (as Mary Oliver says), more time looking at the details and more snow angels. Way more snow angels.
Roof Raking Mindfulness!
I love raking my roof just as much as I hate water leaking into my kitchen. I have found joy in this task by slowing my breathing, making deliberate movements and watching the snow cascade down my roof. Hey! Some people have those little sand zen gardens, I have a roof of snow…..it’s all how you look at it!
My light therapy light’s name is “Lampy”. Its the first winter I have used one, and I’m only sitting in front of it right now because I got it at a garage sale. But, getting sunlight or sun-like light is a legit prescription for the winter blues. It’s great for reading, AND it makes for an awesome photo light, feel free to use those funny instagram filters while you are getting your 20 minutes of therapeutic light!
Here are a couple of other thoughts I will leave you with:
How wonderful is it that we laugh because out bodies cannot contain the joy?
Don’t let someone dim your light simply because its shining in their eyes.
Hang in there! Winter won’t last forever, and soon we’ll be complaining about the heat!
How do you defend your joy?